What Grounds You?

We’ve been talking lately about loneliness and ways to get out of that swampland that leads to depression. Lest you think I am minimizing those steps and implying that they are easy, let me talk today about what grounds me and enabled me to take those steps. Whether you are dealing with loneliness or not, having a firm foundation is so vital to surviving all that life throws at us!

Just as with a building, our ability to stand against the stresses of life depends in large part on what grounds us, what our foundation is. I have found through personal experience that I need help dealing with life. For those of you acquainted with the Bible, this will sound very familiar, but my help comes from the Lord! Here is one of my favorite songs to cling to during hard times:

Over and over I have found that during tough times if I will stop and get myself centered with the Lord, I feel refreshed, encouraged and with strength to go on. Do the trials of life go away or change? Not usually, but I have strength beyond my own capabilities as He walks through them with me. If you feel overwhelmed during the day and can’t seem to find the time to stop and be still in His presence, try playing worship songs when you go to bed. They will permeate your sleep hours and give you a much needed refreshing. If you wake in the middle of the night, just talk to Him about what is on your heart or mind, listen to more worship music and relax into His presence. Create a playlist of uplifting worship music and play it while you get ready in the morning, while you are traveling, when you have a break. Let Him build you up- you are so precious to Him, let Him show you this. Next week we will talk about what He says about you- it will likely be very different from what the world says!

If you don’t know Him yet, I would highly encourage you to seek Him- I’d love to help you on that journey, just message me at cellebratelife@gmail.com

Have a blessed day!

A Slice of Life: A Christmas Story

 

 

A Slice of Life- By Carol McAdoo Rehme

Jean heaved another world-weary sigh. Tucking a strand of shiny black hair behind her ear, she frowned at the teetering tower of Christmas cards waiting to be signed. What was the point? How could she sign only one name? A “couple” required two people, and she was just one.

The legal separation from Don had left her feeling vacant and incomplete. Maybe she would skip the cards this year. And the holiday decorating. Truthfully, even a tree felt like more than she could manage. She had canceled out of the caroling party and the church nativity pageant. Christmas was to be shared, and she had no one to share it with.

The doorbell’s insistent ring startled her. Padding to the door in her thick socks, Jean cracked it open against the frigid December night. She peered into the empty darkness of the porch. Instead of a friendly face — something she could use about now — she found only a jaunty green gift bag perched on the railing. From whom? she wondered. And why?

Under the bright kitchen light, she pulled out handfuls of shredded gold tinsel, feeling for a gift. Instead, her fingers plucked an envelope from the bottom. Tucked inside was a typed letter. It was a…story?

The little boy was new to the Denmark orphanage, and Christmas was drawing near, Jean read. Already caught up in the tale, she settled into a kitchen chair.

From the other children, he heard tales of a wondrous tree that would appear in the hall on Christmas Eve and of the scores of candles that would light its branches. He heard stories of the mysterious benefactor who made it possible each year.

The little boy’s eyes opened wide at the mere thought of all that splendor. The only Christmas tree he had ever seen was through the fogged windows of other people’s homes. There was even more, the children insisted. More? Oh, yes! Instead of the orphanage’s regular fare of gruel, they would be served fragrant stew and crusty, hot bread that special night.

Last, and best of all, the little boy learned, each of them would receive a holiday treat. He would join the line of children to get his very own….

Jean turned the page. Instead of a continuation, she was startled to read: “Everyone needs to celebrate Christmas, wouldn’t you agree? Watch for Part II.” She refolded the paper while a faint smile teased the corner of her mouth.

The next day was so busy that Jean forgot all about the story. That evening, she rushed home from work. If she hurried, she’d probably have enough time to decorate the mantle. She pulled out the box of garland, only to drop it when the doorbell rang. Opening the door, she found herself looking at a red gift bag. She reached for it eagerly and pulled out the piece of paper.

…to get his very own orange, Jean read. An orange? That’s a treat? she thought incredulously.

An orange! Of his very own? Yes, the others assured him. There would be one apiece. The boy closed his eyes against the wonder of it all. A tree. Candles. A filling meal. And an orange of his very own.

He knew the smell, tangy sweet, but only the smell. He had sniffed oranges at the merchant’s stall in the marketplace. Once he had even dared to rub a single finger over the brilliant, pocked skin. He fancied for days that his hand still smelled of orange. But to taste one, to eat one? Heaven.

The story ended abruptly, but Jean didn’t mind. She knew more would follow.

The next evening, Jean waited anxiously for the sound of the doorbell. She wasn’t disappointed. This time, though, the embossed gold bag was heavier than the others had been. She tore into the envelope resting on top of the tissue paper.

Christmas Eve was all the children had been promised. The piney scent of fir competed with the aroma of lamb stew and homey yeast bread. Scores of candles diffused the room with golden halos. The boy watched in amazement as each child in turn eagerly claimed an orange and politely said “thank you.”

The line moved quickly, and he found himself in front of the towering tree and the equally imposing headmaster.

“Too bad, young man, too bad. But the count was in before you arrived. It seems there are no more oranges. Next year. Yes, next year you will receive an orange.”

Brokenhearted, the orphan raced up the stairs empty-handed to bury both his face and his tears beneath his pillow.

Wait! This wasn’t how she wanted the story to go. Jean felt the boy’s pain, his aloneness.

The boy felt a gentle tap on his back. He tried to still his sobs. The tap became more insistent until, at last, he pulled his head from under the pillow.

He smelled it before he saw it. A cloth napkin rested on the mattress. Tucked inside was a peeled orange, tangy sweet. It was made of segments saved from the others. A slice donated from each child. Together they added up to make one whole, complete fruit.

An orange of his very own.

Jean swiped at the tears trickling down her cheeks. From the bottom of the gift bag she pulled out an orange — a foil-covered chocolate orange–already separated into segments. And for the first time in weeks, she smiled. Really smiled.

She set about making copies of the story, wrapping individual slices of the chocolate orange. There was Mrs. Potter across the street, spending her first Christmas alone in 58 years. There was Melanie down the block, facing her second round of radiation. Her running partner, Jan, single-parenting a difficult teen. Lonely Mr. Bradford losing his eyesight, and Sue, sole care-giver to an aging mother….

A piece from her might help make one whole.

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So many people struggle with the holiday season, just as Melanie did.  There is so often an emptiness because of missing loved ones, whether they have left your life permanently due to death or divorce, or temporarily due to an assignment overseas or a move.

I, too, have had empty places at the holidays.  My father passed away at the beginning of December about 20 years ago.  My uncle passed away less than two weeks ago.  However, I know both of them well enough that I know they would not want my holiday season to be a time of sadness.  They would both want me to remember the reason for this season, Christ coming to earth for us.  So, instead of allowing the sadness to take hold, I choose to do something for someone else in their honor.  And, in doing so, by bringing joy into someone else’s life, I bring joy into my own!

Luke 6:31 is so appropriate this time of year.  “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”

‘Do’ kindness, thoughtfulness, love unto others, especially those who may be struggling. And always keep in mind that many people will hide or camouflage their sadness.  We may never know who we touch with gestures of kindness in this season.  People who seem to have it all together, but are hiding broken spirits.  People who put on a cloak of joviality to mask a spirit of despair.   May we all spread His joy this season!

Have a blessed day!

The Barber

The Barber- Author Unknown

A man went to a barbershop to have his hair cut and his beard trimmed. As the barber began to work, they began to have a good conversation. They talked about so many things and various subjects. When they eventually touched on the subject of God, the barber said: “I don’t believe that God exists.”

“Why do you say that?” asked the customer.

“Well, you just have to go out in the street to realize that God doesn’t exist. Tell me, if God exists, would there be so many sick people? Would there be abandoned children? If God existed, there would be neither suffering nor pain. I can’t imagine loving a God who would allow all of these things.”

The customer thought for a moment, but didn’t respond because he didn’t want to start an argument. The barber finished his job and the customer left the shop. Just after he left the barbershop, he saw a man in the street with long, stringy, dirty hair and an untrimmed beard. He looked dirty and un-kept. The customer turned back and entered the barber shop again and he said to the barber: “You know what? Barbers do not exist.”

“How can you say that?” asked the surprised barber. “I am here, and I am a barber. And I just worked on you!”

“No!” the customer exclaimed. “Barbers don’t exist because if they did, there would be no people with dirty long hair and untrimmed beards, like that man outside.”

“Ah, but barbers DO exist! What happens is, people do not come to me.”

“Exactly!” affirmed the customer. “That’s the point! God, too, DOES exist! What happens is, people don’t go to Him.”

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So often, people ask the question the barber asked, “If God exists, why do bad things happen?”  There are so many answers to that question and we will never fully understand this side of Paradise.  But very often it is so true that the reason bad things happen is because of choices people make who don’t know God personally .  Now, we Christians are definitely not perfect and our choices often cause problems too, but think of events occurring in our world right now that are causing so much pain.  I am especially thinking of issues in the Middle East and actions taken by people who actually hate our God and our faith.  My heart aches when I hear of the atrocities perpetrated on innocent children.  My only solace is that these tiny martyrs are now in the arms of a loving Savior Who has replaced their fear and tears with His love.  And yes, I hear you when you ask why such a loving Savior would allow this to happen.  I don’t know the answer to that question, although I do have a few ideas.

First Corinthians 13:12 says, “Now we see things imperfectly, like puzzling reflections in a mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity. All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God now knows me completely.”  God sees the whole picture, while I can only see a small part of that whole.  I do know that in my own life, positive things have always come out of tragedy.   Romans 8:28 promises that God is able to do this:  “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”  I just have to wait and watch and serve Him faithfully while He works this out.  If you would like more on this thought, I found a very good article by Lee Stroble called “Why does God Allow Tragedy and Suffering” published by BibleGateway.com that is well worth a read.

In these troubling times, lean on Him and accept His comfort and love.  It will make a difference!

Have a blessed day!

 

The Starfish

The Starfish

Based on the story by Loren Eisley…

I awoke early, as I often did, just before sunrise to walk by the ocean’s edge and greet the new day. As I moved through the misty dawn, I focused on a faint, far away motion. I saw a youth, bending and reaching and flailing arms, dancing on the beach, no doubt in celebration of the perfect day soon to begin.

As I approached, I sadly realized that the youth was not dancing to the bay, but rather bending to sift through the debris left by the night’s tide, stopping now and then to pick up a starfish and then standing, to heave it back into the sea. I asked the youth the purpose of the effort. “The tide has washed the starfish onto the beach and they cannot return to the sea by themselves,” the youth replied. “When the sun rises, they will die, unless I throw them back to the sea.”

As the youth explained, I surveyed the vast expanse of beach, stretching in both directions beyond my sight. Starfish littered the shore in numbers beyond calculation. The hopelessness of the youth’s plan became clear to me and I countered, “But there are more starfish on this beach than you can ever save before the sun is up. Surely you cannot expect to make a difference.”

The youth paused briefly to consider my words, bent to pick up a starfish and threw it as far as possible. Turning to me he simply said, “I made a difference to that one.”

I left the boy and went home, deep in thought of what the boy had said. I returned to the beach and spent the rest of the day helping the boy throw starfish into the sea.
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Do you ever have days when you wonder if anything you do is worth it, whether or not you make a difference in the large scheme of things? I sure do. So, I guess in many ways, today’s blog is especially for me. When I was frustrated because my little Bible study seemed stuck in first gear, when I am having difficulty promoting the book God had me write, when I am not sure whether or not anyone reads this blog, when I am frustrated by lack of growth in my business, God has a special message for me. That message is in this story. If each of those endeavors touches just one person, it is worth all the time taken to create it.

I have heard it said that if Jesus knew that only one person would accept Him as Savior, He would still have gone through the agony of the cross. In John 3:16, we are told that ‘God so loved the world that he gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.’ I am one of those ‘whoevers’ and I am so grateful that God didn’t leave me on the beach of life to shrivel up and die. No, He pulled me back into the amazing ocean of life in Him. I am one in whom He made a difference.

Have a blessed day!

A Brother’s Song

 

A Brother’s Song- author unknown

Like any good mother, when Karen found out that another baby was on the way, she did what she could to help her 3-year-old son, Michael, prepare for a new sibling.

They found out that the new baby was going to be a girl, and day after day, night after night, Michael sang to his little sister in Mommy’s tummy. He was building a bond of love with his little sister before he even met her.

The pregnancy progressed normally for Karen.

In time, the labor pains came. Soon it was every five minutes, very three, every minute. But serious complications arose during delivery and Karen found herself in hours of labor. Would a C-section be required? Finally after a long struggle, Michael’s little sister was born. But she was in very serious condition. With a siren howling in the night, the ambulance rushed the infant to the neonatal intensive care unit at St. Mary’s Hospital, Knoxville, Tennessee

The days inched by. The little girl got worse. The pediatric specialist regretfully had to tell the parents, “There is very little hope. Be prepared for the worst.”

Karen and her husband contacted a local cemetery about a burial plot. They had fixed up a special room in their home for the new baby….but now they found themselves having to plan for a funeral.

Michael, however, kept begging his parents to let him see his sister. “I want to sing to her,” he kept saying. Week two in the intensive care looked as if a funeral could come before the week was over.

Michael kept nagging about singing to his sister, but kids are never allowed in the Intensive Care. Karen made up her mind, though. She would take Michael whether they liked it or not! If he didn’t see his sister right then, he may never see her alive.

She dressed him in an oversized scrub suit and marched him into ICU. He looked like a walking laundry basket, but the head nurse recognized him as a child and bellowed “Get that kid out of here now! NO children are allowed!” The mother rose up strong in Karen, and the usually mild-mannered lady glared steel-eyed right into the head nurses’s face, her lips a firm line. “He’s not leaving until he sings to his sister!”

Karen towed Michael to his sister’s bedside. He gazed at the tiny infant losing the battle to live. After a moment, he began to sing. In the pure hearted voice of a 3-year-old Michael sang:

“You are my sunshine, my only sunshine,
you make me happy when skies are gray,”

Instantly the baby girl seemed to respond. Her pulse rate began to calm down and become steady. “Keep on singing, Michael,” encouraged Karen with tears in her eyes.

“You never know, dear,
how much I love you.
Please don’t take
my sunshine away.”

Michael’s little sister began to relax as rest, healing rest, seemed to sweep over her. “Keep on singing, Michael.” Tears had now conquered the face of the bossy head nurse. Karen glowed.

“My only sunshine.
Please don’t take
my sunshine away….”

The next day, …the very next day…the little girl was well enough to go home!

“Woman’s Day Magazine” called it “The Miracle of a Brother’s Song” The medical staff just called it a miracle. Karen called it a miracle of God’s love!

Never give up on the people you love. Love is so Incredible powerful. To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world!
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According to several sites on the web, this is a true story, one even had a picture and bio of Michael’s sister, now 16. I wasn’t able to verify the article in Woman’s Day, but whether the story is truth or fiction, it is very touching, isn’t it? It reminds me that we never know what gesture, what word, what touch will be a life saving difference in someone’s life. How often have we had a horrible, rotten, no good day that was changed by a smile, a kind word, a brief hug? Little Marlee was influenced by her brother’s song heard every day. Our family and friends may be equally influenced by a loving greeting, email, or text to the extent that their day doesn’t seem complete without it. Proverbs 16:24 describes it this way, “Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.” That is my goal: to be sweetness to their souls and health to their bodies by my words and actions. I fall woefully short at times, but I still daily aspire to that goal!

Have a blessed day!

Letter to Death Row Inmate- Author Unknown

A letter written to a person on death row by the father of the man whom the
person on death row had killed:

You are probably surprised that I, of all people, am writing a letter to
you, but I ask you to read it in its entirety and consider its request
seriously. As the father of the man whom you took part in murdering, I have
something very important to say to you. I forgive you. With all my heart, I
forgive you. I realize it may be hard for you to believe, but I really do.
At your trial, when you confessed to your part in the events that cost my
son his life and asked for my forgiveness, I immediately granted you that
forgiving love from my heart.

I can only hope you believe me and will accept my forgiveness. But this is
not all I have to say to you. I want to make you an offer: I want you to
become my adopted child. You see, my son who died was my only child, and I
now want to share my life with you and leave my riches to you.

This may not make sense to you or anyone else, but I believe you are worth
the offer.

I have arranged matters so that if you will receive my offer of forgiveness,
not only will you be pardoned for your crime, but you also will be set free
from your imprisonment, and your sentence of death will be dismissed. At
that point, you will become my adopted child and heir to all my riches.

I realize this is a risky offer for me to make to you — you might be
tempted to reject my offer completely — but I make it to you without
reservation. Also, I realize it may seem foolish to make such an offer to
one who cost my son his life, but I have a great love and an unchangeable
forgiveness in my heart for you.

Finally, you may be concerned that once you accept my offer you may do
something to cause you to be denied your rights as an heir to my wealth.
Nothing could be further from the truth. If I can forgive you for your part
in my son’s death, I can forgive you for anything. I know you never will be
perfect, but you do not have to be perfect to receive my offer.

Besides, I believe that once you have accepted my offer and begin to
experience the riches that will come to you from me, that your primary
(though not always) response will be gratitude and loyalty. Some would call
me foolish for my offer to you, but I wish for you to call me your father.

Love,
God
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Did you guess the sender of the letter before you reached the end? I have to admit that, although I was seeing the parallels between the story in the letter and our relationship with God (and thinking what a great topic for a blog post it would be), I wasn’t expecting the end sign off.

Have you ever thought of the gift of salvation in quite this way before? Puts a bit more impact, especially if you are a parent, on John 3:16, doesn’t it? “For God so loved the world (you), that He gave His only Son (Jesus), that whoever believes on His name shall be saved.”

No matter what you have done, no matter who you are..you can be saved when you choose to accept this gift. He is just waiting to give it to you, brimming with all His love and tied up in a beautiful scarlet bow.

Have a very blessed day!

Colors

 

The Color of FriendshipAuthor: Unknown
Once upon a time the colors of the world started to quarrel.  All claimed that they were the best.  The most important.  The most useful.  The favorite.

Green said:  “Clearly I am the most important. I am the sign of life and of hope. I was chosen for grass, trees and leaves. Without me, all animals would die. Look over the countryside and you will see that I am in the majority.”

Blue interrupted : “You only think about the earth, but consider the sky and the sea. It is the water that is the basis of life and drawn up by the clouds from the deep sea. The sky gives space and peace and serenity. Without my peace, you would all be nothing.”

Yellow chuckled:  “You are all so serious. I bring laughter, gaiety, and warmth into the world. The sun is yellow, the moon is yellow, the stars are yellow. Every time you look at a sunflower, the whole world starts to smile. Without me there would be no fun.”

Orange started next to blow her trumpet:  “I am the color of health and strength. I may be scarce, but I am precious for I serve the needs of human life. I carry the most important vitamins. Think of carrots, pumpkins, oranges, mangoes, and papayas. I don’t hang around all the time, but when I fill the sky at sunrise or sunset, my beauty is so striking that no one gives another thought to any of you.”

Red could stand it no longer he shouted out:  “I am the ruler of all of you. I am blood – life’s blood! I am the color of danger and of bravery. I am willing to fight for a cause. I bring fire into the blood. Without me, the earth would be as empty as the moon. I am the color of passion and of love, the red rose, the poinsettia and the poppy.”

Purple rose up to his full height.  He was very tall and spoke with great pomp: “I am the color of royalty and power. Kings, chiefs, and bishops have always chosen me for I am the sign of authority and wisdom. People do not question me! They listen and obey.”

Finally Indigo spoke, much more quietly than all the others, but with just as much determination: “Think of me. I am the color of silence. You hardly notice me, but without me you all become superficial. I represent thought and reflection, twilight and deep water. You need me for balance and contrast, for prayer and inner peace.”

And so the colors went on boasting, each convinced of his or her own superiority. Their quarreling became louder and louder. Suddenly there was a startling flash of bright lightning and thunder rolled and boomed. Rain started to pour down relentlessly. The colors crouched down in fear, drawing close to one another for comfort.

In the midst of the clamor, rain began to speak: “You foolish colors, fighting amongst yourselves, each trying to dominate the rest. Don’t you know that you were each made for a special purpose, unique and different? Join hands with one another and come to me.”

Doing as they were told, the colors united and joined hands.

The rain continued: “From now on, when it rains, each of you will stretch across the sky in a great bow of color as a reminder that you can all live in peace. The Rainbow is a sign of hope for tomorrow.” And so, whenever a good rain washes the world, and a Rainbow appears in the sky, let us remember to appreciate one another.

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This story reminds me of how the Bible speaks of the role of every believer in the Body of Christ (the Church).    In I Corinthians 12, we see, “12 Just as a body, though one, has many parts, but all its many parts form one body, so it is with Christ. 13 For we were all baptized by one Spirit so as to form one body—whether Jews or Gentiles, slave or free—and we were all given the one Spirit to drink. 14 Even so the body is not made up of one part but of many.”  The passage then goes on to describe a scene much like that in the story above in which an ear says that since it isn’t an eye, it can’t be part of the body.  The point of the passage is that we all have a role in the work of God here on Earth and no role is more important than another.  I have often wondered how we as humans can so easily look down on someone because they have a job that is considered menial.  Have we ever wondered what our lives would be like if there were no one to perform that job?  I won’t even give an example here, because when I began to thing of jobs that way, there were no more menial jobs!

This story also reminded me of what I consider to be one of God’s rules for relational prosperity.  Summed up in one word, that rule is fellowship.  Hebrews 10:24-25 tells us, “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”

I am a member of a social networking site and when we have discussions regarding their faith and church, I often hear, “My church is nature and I have no need of organized religion.”  Now, I am the first to admit that nature is wonderful and our churches aren’t perfect.  After all, they are filled with imperfect humans.  However, I have been blessed so many times by the friendships formed in churches, that I know why there are many passages in the Bible about meeting together.  God did not design us to be islands, but to be relational beings.  Here’s another passage about fellowship:  “But if we walk in the light, as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, His Son, purifies us from all sin.” (I John 1:7-9)  If you think about it, Jesus was a very relational man.  Yes, He did go off by Himself to commune with His Father, but the rest of His time was spent with people.

If you are ever tempted to become an island, remember the story of the rainbow.  We all enjoy a beautiful rainbow and the rainbow of color God puts on earth in the form of flowers, trees and other parts of nature.  In isolation, however, they lose much of their impact.  The true beauty is when they work together to create a gorgeous vista.  Likewise, when we create a tapestry of relationships in our lives, they become more rich and colorful than we could ever have imagined.  As you grow closer to God, just watch and see how He leads you to weave a fantastic tapestry of relationships in your life.  And, really, what better legacy to leave behind than people whose lives you have touched in lasting ways.

Have a wonderful time today weaving your tapestry!  Have a blessed day!